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If so, does that mean people actually remember a persons name & face after only one encounter?!

If not, why do we pretend they will be upset, and try to hide the fact that we forget an unfamiliar name?

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[–] i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 21 points 5 months ago (3 children)

It really depends on the context. What was the first encounter? If it was a first date, then yeah, that’s brutal and you suck. If it was a quick intro at a busy event, it’s almost expected.

There’s a bit of a difference between names and faces. Forgetting a name is like forgetting a piece of trivia, but if you meet and speak to somebody and can’t recognize them in a different context (and they look basically the same), it can send a signal that you didn’t find them memorable (and you didn’t lol).

The only time in my life when I found it irritating was my best friend’s roommate who, after hanging out with them in small groups dozens of times for hours each time, still kept introducing herself to me on subsequent visits. I could never figure out if it was drugs, a method of humour or flirting I didn’t understand, or she was really that oblivious to other people.

[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 12 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

At work I once told the customer to stop talking during the presentation because I didn’t recognize them as our customer.

I have face blindness. It was an innocent mistake but wow do I regret doing that.

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I was on a third date, and we met an acquaintance of mine. I went to introduce them and blanked. Worse, I went for what I thought I remembered, which ended up close enough to be culturally insensitive. His name was Franz and I said Fritz and he was pretty hurt.

[–] SLfgb@feddit.nl 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

How is that culturally insensitive?

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

He was Austrian in Germany and those are both very stereotypically Austrian names.

[–] SLfgb@feddit.nl 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

That just seems petty. They both sound like generic German names to me. There even used to be a Kaiser named Fritz. Just recently I was asking someon "was your name James?" reply: "no, Jason". It was a non-issue

[–] idiomaddict@feddit.de 2 points 5 months ago

He also had a bit of a chip on his shoulder about it, to be fair.

[–] Mad_Punda@feddit.de -1 points 5 months ago

On the remembering faces topic: I want to tell you about a condition called face blindness. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prosopagnosia

And people might not even realize they have it.