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Have you tried getting a second friend to see if they can contact them?
Ya, I just gotta let it be for a while. If they were mine they'll come back to me, if they dont, they were never mine to begin with ๐ญ
I refuse to give them that satisfaction if thats the case. I dont chase people who make it difficult to chase them
We always come back to each other though.
Thats chicks but we're male. Not sure if that changes the calculus
I'm female tho
So when I said thats chicks, that implied my understanding that the two of you were women.
I'm saying I believe as males its different
Oh. Sorry, read that wrong.
Not really any different for men.
I think guys can have more pride + shame involved. Thats absolutley a defect of our gender. I dont want to get into sexist stereotypes but its often different as males
I think you're reading into things a bit too much.
Friends come and go with time, even close ones. You may not talk to someone for months, then randomly one day out of the blue you connect with them again like nothing ever happened. There's no ego involved in temporarily "losing" a friend, only to reconnect later.
There is cuz if I'm correct he literally couldn't be bro enough to let me know he didnt want to talk to me anymore and let me waste time reaching out when it was hopeless. I don't believe in shadow-banning people, I believe in having a pair and using your words.
Also i felt like we were bffs for life (i know how childish that sounds) but i felt like we would always count on each other. I have another friend now like that so maybe its for the best. She'll be there for me and I'm glad he's sort of silently confessed what we mean to each other if it turns out there's not actually a good reason for it. I respect myself more that and I'm okay paying a theoretical price for that
He's turning out to be that Californian stereotype applied to friends: sunny and friendly and laughs till they turn or think little of you behind their backs but refuse to be explicit about their contempt