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I'd avoid exurb1a.
I read all that and honestly, that all sounds exactly like what I would assume an early- mid 20s relationship burdened under existential nihilism coupled with that numbing pervasiveness that hollows you out after losing your staring contest with the absurd, and the ideations that our ennui naturally exude.
It's easy to look back over years and pencil it in neatly, plot holes filled, from our privileged advantage in time. Life, as we know, if weve lived a sufficient amount of it, is never as linear as our stories, nor as intentional, and providence and luck benefit us each more than we admit, even to ourselves. We embellish our own story - to ourselves. It's too easy to retcon stories in a bad light, fucking creative industries are devoted to that entire genre, but it's way to easy to think, gee exurb1a's smart and think it's all premeditated and working to a point and in that light that's all really fucked up. Idk man. I think we all can look back a decade and find ourselves cringe, I imagine these two kids are no different.
Parallel to that you could see how maybe guys having some fun running with an idea with this gal. Maybe he set up some synchronicities, people do plan surprises don't they? That's still a thing right? I think it's entirely plausible it's a series of happenstances she's rewriting as if theres some davinci code Roseline thru it all. I think it's entirely plausible that exurb1a was shooting from the hip the whole time, while talking about the heavy shit that goes thru his mind. And your mind, and mine, cuz if you know of him, you also know what entails the ennui.
I mean, youve listened to his essays, and you're...surprised...that his life is chaotic and messy too? Like.. you didn't see this coming? Maybe his next video should be about making apples from applesauce.
Y'know, nowhere did I see her take any personal responsibility. It was her trip to a psych ward because of him, not her lack of critical thinking or ability to put space between them? Idk man, eschewing agency doesnt absolve yourself accountability and it sure as shit doesn't lend your credibility.
I've read her side and I'm not convinced, I still have questions, things just aren't adding up to me. A couple screenshots of text (that totally can't be faked right?) isn't what I would call bringing receipts. Im reserving judgement until I see his response, assuming he responds in public, y'know since that's where she brought her accusations. Until we hear both sides, it's all hearsay anyways. In reality, we don't know shit about either one of these people, whether theyre good people or not or whatever. Maybe she's trying to go all Amber Heard on him, how the fuck would we be able to discern otherwise?
Yea, I think reserving judgement is prudent. And if the reality doesn't come to light? Well, oh well. It's not our business to begin with.
What the actual fuck…
There have been rumours about exurb1a being involved in rapey/creepy shit for years, I thought you were linking to that stuff but this is new!
Regardless, I unsubbed years ago as everything he puts out is the same old rehashed shit anyway
That's disheartening. Thanks for the info, I'll have to read up on that.
oh my god this is actually fucked up, I am never watching that guy again