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I sent flowers to my best friend, anonymously (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by blujan@sopuli.xyz to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

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She means the world to me, I just want her to be happy. I don't know if she'll realize they're from me.

Edit: okay, I let her know it was me

Edit to add context: I do like her more than as a friend, I know she doesn't and that's why I did it anonymously.

I don't want her to feel pressured, just cared for. We have been good friends for a long time, I think my feelings can become an obstacle for our friendship and I hate that.

I wish I didn't feel this way.

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[–] klemptor@startrek.website 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I think you had good intentions but the flowers probably made her feel uncomfortable. As a woman, receiving flowers from a guy who knows I don't reciprocate his feelings would not make me happy. It puts the woman in a bad spot. If she says thank-you to be polite, it can be misinterpreted as encouragement. And if she reminds him that she's not interested, she's a bitch. Either way it's unwanted pressure because a man giving flowers to a woman is always going to be interpreted as a romantic gesture, which she clearly doesn't want.

[–] blujan@sopuli.xyz 1 points 8 months ago

No, I get it, makes sense, didn't even want her to know but shouldn't have sent her anything at all