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Hi, I am 19M. I always feel horny around beautiful girl. However I don't like it because it makes me uncomfortable around them.

How do you control yourself in that situation?

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[โ€“] Azzu@lemm.ee 1 points 10 months ago

I'm 33 and it still happens.

Why exactly do you feel uncomfortable with an erection around them?

A huge amount of biological beings reproduce sexually, including humans. Women are generally sexual.

Almost everything we do as people is somehow connected to having sex. The urge to look for power evolved because it lead to better survival, and to more sex. Being cooperative/altruistic led to more sex. And so on, almost every one of our traits evolved so we can survive longer to have more sex.

But there's also sexual violence and unwanted sexual advances. Thus sexuality is also discouraged by our society. I would guess that this in some way lead to you being uncomfortable?