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Why couldn't they move close to you? You had a job and life settled. They are retired and therefore far more flexible in that aspect.
There might be some factors you didn't share of course. If I was asked the same I would help but it's my parents who would have to move. If they are not willing then clearly that help is not needed so badly to justify such a drastic change in my life.
Yeah, I understand what you mean. I lived in one of the pricier cities in the US with sky high cost of living. While my parents could afford to move there, it would be a lot more costly as far as living than where we all are currently. That and the mental/physical burden of moving at their age would be heavy for them even with hiring movers, etc.
It just worked out. My life, as of right now, is very flexible with very few responsibilities other than my job, so it was an easier decision to make than most would have given similar circumstances and choices.
I will admit I miss my friends though. I keep up via social media and the occassional jitsi meet/zoom call, text message, etc, but I do miss getting together for coffee or beer from time to time.
Anyways, thanks for asking. I hope that sheds a bit more light on it.
It makes sense. Everyone situation is unique.
I'm dealing with some entitled person in my family so I have learnt to be defensive on this sort of requests. I'm prividing help but with the clear boundaries. I'm not going to sacrifice my life because someone wants to.