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Forgiving isn't necessarily allowance, it's unburdening yourself of the emotional weight the wrong has done to you. It's possible to forgive someone for doing you wrong while still seeking justice, in fact doing that is the purest form of seeking justice, removal of the emotional investment of vengeance from the equation.
The wrongs you've done to others are the chains that bind you, but the wrongs you refuse to forgive are the chains that hold you to the person who wronged you, even after justice and atonement and even reconciliation, you won't be free until you've let go of it yourself.
it's also possible to let go without the forgiveness step.
Letting go is literally the act of forgiveness. This is like saying it's possible to inhale without breathing.
Looks like we have a semantic disagreement.
letting go is the act of not caring, the act of me moving on.
forgiveness implies I don't hold the person accountable anymore for whatever they did. In my mind, the first does not require the second.