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this post was submitted on 07 Dec 2023
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As unnecessary as the tone was, if your first reaction to such a form of address is to run to HR, you're contributing to a toxic workplace. The first and foremost way to address etiquette problems (I am not including criminal behavior in this) is to talk directly to the person who offended you. Everyone has a bad day once in a while, and some people may even shout. If the first reaction is to get them into legal trouble with the employer, most people will rightfully avoid you like you just stepped into dogshit.
If this kind of behavior - despite having addressed it face to face - keeps occurring, that's a different issue, then HR may be necessary.
The term is "hostile work environment". HR doesn't just respond because of strict liability. Just one occurance of something like this can lead to an otherwise solid worker to spiral from discomfort of the situation, both feeling like a prisoner at their job and producing far less value for their employers.
The latter is why HR cares, but the former is why it's OKay to go straight to HR. If HR is well-trained, things like this shouldn't escalate just because you went to HR. They should be able to diffuse it productively.
You have obviously never dealt with a real-world scenario. Going straight to HR for someone being verbally(!) out of line, without even using insults, means you are the bigger problem.
I love how everyone online is psychic.
Actually, I've watched two GREAT workers and good people end up losing their jobs because a easily resolved situation turned toxic. The person who felt uncomfortable tried to take care of it 1-on-1 but had too passive aggressive a nature to really be clear when she confronted the guy.
So 6 months or a year later, she was on the verge of quitting and went to HR. He was terminated because it had gone too far. She left soon after because she still wasn't comfortable at work after the cause of that ended.
...look. I "obviously never dealt" with anything because nobody is allowed differing opinions here, but I have 20+ years experience at businesses where the existence or lack of good HR has been a deciding factor of the work-culture and comfort level of team members. I work 1-on-1 with my company's Directors of HR on a regular basis to make sure my team is happy and because I am involved with other teams at my job who have their own interpersonal conflicts. One of HR's responsibilities in a good company is to involve themselves in interpersonal conflicts BEFORE decisive action has to be taken.
The problem is that face-to-face confrontations without a mediator don't always end well. And I would rather not have HR decide "we have to fire our Rockstar senior dev or this random guy". But if you address it earlier, HR deals with it earlier (yes, because the paper trail m eans HR can't just fire "this random guy" later over the Rockstar senior dev). It's win-win for all parties INCLUDING the Linus Torvalds in this explanation.
But I've "obviously never dealt with a real-world scenario" and my experience doesn't count. So you can ignore everything I said.
You are under the very relevant misassumption that HR is less likely to be handling a situation inappropriately than two people speaking with each other directly. I stand by my original comment. A simple verbal overstep, on the first occurrence, should definitely be addressed without involving HR
I have something called an "expertise bias" that I use to make decisions. In a vacuum, I trust an expert to solve a problem over someone with no experience in a given field. I don't ask a barista to fix my car, or my doctor to fix me a latte. Both can screw up in their field, but they are less likely to do so than someone without experience in their specialty. I'm not a barista, a doctor, or an HR expert. Or to put it simpler, the odds of an HR person mishandling someone being non-serially abusive in the workplace is simply lower than the odds of the situation without that person involved. I need this attitutude to live; if a junior dev is trying to override the devops engineer on infrastructure, you'll never guess which one usually wins.
What are you talking about now? The topic at hand wasn't verbal and certainly wasn't merely an overstep. We have a an insulting teardown in writing. Substantively different from a verbal teardown. I never said the moment a person loses their cool with em and tells me "fuck off man" I'm knocking on HR's door. But if a senior dev on my team sends this flaming email to a junior dev on my team, I better find out about it and it's getting handled... By HR.
Oh yeah, when your boss has anger issues and curses you in email, you really want to politely talk to him and ask him to stop. That will show them that you're a little spineless sucker and can be shat on indefinitely.
Yes, even to your boss you can say that you feel something could have been communicated in a more friendly way. "Anger issues" implies the repeated occurrence for which I already stated before that is a different situation.
this is literally abuse. if you got this you're already in a toxic workplace.
An individual misbehaving does not constitute a toxic workplace. If you can't tell people that you think their tone is inappropriate, then take it to your manager, but going straight to HR is about the dumbest way to deal with this. Some people don't even realize they overstepped but might be able to empathize once informed.
Hard disagree. This letter is what happens when direct communications have failed.
Realistically, somebody near Linus probably told him to chill out and that he's damaging his own reputation and his project's by sending out this temper tantrum bullshit. In no world would the target of this letter be the person who successfully sits him down and lectures him on not being an asshole.
But honestly if he had a habit of sending out this kind of stuff it would be a liability/legal problem.
letter? latter? Linus? what are you even on about. I was speaking generally about such a situation, not this incident in particular.