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Is it too late to date for me? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by alphapro784@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi my fellow Lemmy users! It’s been a while since I used this platform and boy did I actually miss you all ❤️

It’s just that I’ve been more so focusing on myself in my career and in my own education. So I graduated back in June and man it sure does feel like a lifetime ago already. Settled in a good paying job and still trying to improve myself wherever I can.

This brings us to the question that I wanted to ask everyone here. As I’ve been very focused on academics and career stuff I never had the opportunity to date and I’ve been rejected very frequently (which is to be expected as a man tbh). I haven’t been able to lose weight and that I’m 25 years old.

I know that’s still pretty young but I still feel so behind on dating tbh. Is it still too late for me to find someone I want to be with after I’ve lost weight? Does losing weight help for men as it does for women? I’ve been trying to join meetups, volunteering (just to meet new people tbh) and really put myself out there. It’s just idk like all my friends are committed and I’m just floating around life whilst focusing on my career.

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[–] 13esq@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Occam's razor.

You can complicate the concepts of weight gain and loss all you like, it always boils down to calories in Vs calories out.

You'll show me 99 people that have several excuses about why they in particular can't lose weight and I'll only be able to show you one that holds their hands up and says "I admit it, I'm weak and I'd rather have cake now than a nice body a few months later".

Losing weight is like stopping smoking, it's all conjecture and day dreams until one day you say "fuck this, I'm changing and sticking with it STARTING NOW".

Some people need tough love, not more readymade excuses.

[–] Nollij@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

It sounds like you've never struggled with weight loss, and for that I congratulate you. I couldn't manage until I learned to avoid carbs.

Yes, the end result is still fewer calories. But this approach made it a whole lot easier for me, since it reduced my hunger.