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Physical violence vs psychological/verbal violence (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by Spanish_Commie@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I hate how physical violence is (correctly) seen as a horrible thing while psychological/verbal violence is frowned upon but not as much as physical violence.

My brother used to bully me every day until I moved out into my grandparent's house. There were two instances where I snapped and attacked him physically, and ONLY THEN did my family intervene.

Due to my neurodevelopmental disabilities I am unable to verbally defend myself, so I was being harassed and bullied every day and I couldn't do anything about it.

And because psychological violence is not perceived to be as serious as physical violence, when I responded in the only way I was able to (physically) the situation changed from being perceived as "Al-Anda's brother being annoying" to "this must be stopped immediately".

He also threatened to call the police and shit, since physical violence is illegal while bullying and harassing someone every single fucking day isn't.

I swear, this shit makes me so angry...

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[–] Josiane@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

People that do emotional abuse really do get away with murder… you’re right, no one is treating it as something ‘serious’, but it is, it just murders people from the inside. Part of this is that it’s much harder to prove emotional abuse, often it’s debatable whether it is or not. I’m still unsure if my parents are emotionally abusive, there are people in my life that I think are emotionally abusive but someone else might disagree with me… it’s just not as clear as physical or sexual abuse. So it’s not just that people are being dismissive of it, although they might. People tend to also be very dismissive of anything that feels uncomfortable to them, they’ll sweep it under the rug as long as they can.

Humans are violent! 😅 Not really that nice either… I mean there’s nothing nice about picking on the ones that are weaker, and you having some kind of weakness is obviously not your ‘fault’ and certainly not something you asked for. So yeah, humans are pretty disgusting. Or ‘some’ of them are… there’s nice people also.

But keep in mind that there’s an unusual amount of mental illness at the moment, there’s also a lot of trauma (it makes people feel more threatened, less trusting of each other). So if we didn’t have that to deal with I do think that people would at least be ‘nicer’ and get along ‘better’. I think sometimes you need to open up to people and help them understand you better, because they don’t seem to be able to do that on their own. :-/