I am very comftable with he/him pronouns. Always was but recently I noticed that while I don't go out of my way to use them I'm also fine with they/them pronouns being used on me.

It could be a phase but I'm not sure. It could also be that I tend to use they/them as an alternative in. I'm confused

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[–] LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

I don't go out of my way to correct people, or push any particular pronouns in conversation when self-referencing (cis male). In text I'll often default to we/us as they/them is slightly more comfortable in that format. I'm certainly masculine in presentation with the beard and body type, but am comfortable in all sorts of classically feminine clothes, have done drag for plays and musicals, and think that being open to those kinds of experiences is in line with healthy masculinity. It might be good, just as a thought exercise, to think about the masc behaviors you feel don't fit and consider whether it's an unhealthy set of behaviors that's really at issue. There's no right or wrong answer there, by the way - it's just about recognizing how your internal value system is helping you to define yourself. Identity is a fluid thing, and if you can think of yourself in a way that makes you happy and comfortable the labels others use (and the ones you think they're using) don't have to matter as much.