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I think I'm cis but I'm questioning my gender kinda, need advice (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 year ago by Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
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I am very comftable with he/him pronouns. Always was but recently I noticed that while I don't go out of my way to use them I'm also fine with they/them pronouns being used on me.

It could be a phase but I'm not sure. It could also be that I tend to use they/them as an alternative in. I'm confused

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[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We would need more details about how you feel to give you better advice. It's ok to experiment with pronouns and is not a big issue. There is a sub that I still don't see in the fediverse called transtryout where people try names/pronouns. Maybe we can help you in the comments by using they/them pronouns.

However it would be nice to open up about how are you feeling about your gender. Don't be ashamed to feel like it's a phase. It might be but it might not be, in either case, would be nice to know that some people supported you and didn't judge you over it.

[–] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

What other info is needed. Don't know how to handle this.

To make it clear I still want to be masculine to an extent. But I do like some not masc things

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

whatever you think might be ok to open up about. Like, why you feel like They/Them fit you better? Do you think like don't fit into ur gender assigned at birth? What it something that makes you question ur gender? and what might give you some form of euphoria?

[–] Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't think they them van replace them. I wouldn't want that. I fit with my assigned gender.Questioning because I don'tmind they them and like bracelets and stuff. Don't have any disphoria or euphoria.

Would like to try nail polish for some reason. Used to do it when I was like 7.

[–] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

That is Ok, sounds like ur cis with some aesthetic preferences and that's ok. You can try out they/them with some friends and you can see if it sticks with you. Plenty of cis guys have their ears pierced, wear bracelets, have nair polish, dye their air, use eyeliner, etc. Feel free to experiment with out appearance in a way that makes you feel comfortable. Best of luck.