this post was submitted on 23 Oct 2023
41 points (100.0% liked)

Comradeship // Freechat

2115 readers
1 users here now

Talk about whatever, respecting the rules established by Lemmygrad. Failing to comply with the rules will grant you a few warnings, insisting on breaking them will grant you a beautiful shiny banwall.

A community for comrades to chat and talk about whatever doesn't fit other communities

founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
felipeforte@lemmygrad.ml
41
How to deal with bigotry? (lemmygrad.ml)
submitted 11 months ago by KrasMazov@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml
12 comments fedilink hide all child comments
 

Hey comrades, how do you deal with bigotry irl?

I'm really sick of so many people around me just saying some LGBTphobic, misogynistic or racist shit. It's bad enough seeing it all over social media everyday, but irl it's even worse. And I can't bring myself to confront anyone about it, be it in person or in a voice call. I don't even know how to confront this type of behavior, what to say, what tone to use, which expressions to make. The few times I managed to do it I was either mocked or met with verbal resistance.

It also doesn't help that my city is very right-wing to say the least, it's like no one I know even think about any of this. It's honestly so tiring.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] UlyssesT@hexbear.net 3 points 11 months ago

As immature as it may sound (while I'd also argue it's just talking down to their level), whenever some aging internet dad says "gay" as a bad thing I say something like "oh no gays bad" which puts them on the defensive right away because it's just shining a light on what they just said.

Sometimes they crawl on their bellies to "it's just slang it's not homophobia" which is fucking rich considering that the slang is definitively about the bad thing being gay. Make them own it and I think over time they'll do it less.