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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)

submitted 1 year ago by swab148@startrek.website to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).
Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[–] Steak@lemmy.ca 72 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I don't think there's any chick's here dude. It's just us.

[–] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can we please leave this awful mindset behind on reddit

[–] krimsonbun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

it's probably true though, and when talking about a dating site that's an important factor

[–] Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah there's no chicks here dude bro

I don't exist

[–] krimsonbun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

the overwhelming majority are guys I mean

[–] DagothUr@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Why does it matter? Do you WANT to be one of the only girls in a male dominated space? Can you not partake in the communities that you're in without people knowing that you are a woman?
Also: welcome to the Internet. There's no girls here since 1999. Its not a thing from Reddit.

[–] ebits21@lemmy.ca 19 points 1 year ago (2 children)

bats eyelashes

[–] SHamblingSHapes@lemmy.one 11 points 1 year ago

briefly forgot men have eyelashes too and got excited

[–] Pixel@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do bats even have eyelashes 🦇

[–] jabib@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Wrong type of bat 🏏

[–] WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My wife is here, but for obvious reasons, her identify will remain hidden.

[–] Tak@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everyone's identity should remain hidden, don't sell yourself short bud.

[–] WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 year ago

Jokes on my wife, I was still 3 cover names deep when she changed hers.