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I've always been quiet and never had much sex. That has changed. I'm in the kind of phase that people look at me and say: "You were so nice! What went wrong!?" And now I'll have sex with men, women, ~~hookers~~ escorts, ~~removeds~~ not fully transitioned MtoF transsexuals, robots, I'll probably engage in BDSM, piss play, breath play, and other exotic activities. I won't engange in drugs/chemsex that's where I draw the line.

Thus, the advice I've always been given and followed looks a little inadequate. Somehow saying to just use condoms, pills and IUD looks like insufficient knowledge to the kind of behavior I'll engage in.

Therefore I need to up my game into sex ed and STIs knowledge and prevention. I've been looking inton PrEP, but I really need to read more about diseases and prevention to protect myself and be able to treat myself if I catch something.

Any suggestion of videos, books, and other learning resources that goes beyond the "just use a condom and have a single partner?"

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[โ€“] Mothra@mander.xyz 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I might be wrong and hopefully someone can point you to a good educational resource such as what you are looking for.

All I can say is, because of the close contact and fluid transfers ( saliva, urine, feces, touching another person etc) you don't just need to be wary of STDs, but of most contagious diseases and bacteria, which are way too many to list. Especially if you engage in scat/piss and are in contact with other people's blood.

Sure, this applies to anyone really, even people with a single partner. My point is, the more lottery tickets you buy, the more chances to win the lottery.

Having a relationship with few people you know relatively well decreases your risk of transmission not just by numbers, but because they will be more likely to disclose if they have something if they know it. Random hookups may not be this considerate always. I'd be really curious to see material addressing contagious diseases and prevention specifically for promiscuous people, I wonder how it would differ from information addressed to a general audience.

[โ€“] DoisBigo@lemmy.eco.br 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

100%

But each practice involves different levels of risk. Kissing random strangers has a different level of risk from having anal sex with them, and a different level of risk from having oral sex, piss play, etc. Some stuff seems obvious, other stuff isn't as intuitive. And for people who engage in risk behavior, knowing how risky it is makes all the difference in the world. Knowing that having anal sex with an escorts is way riskier than having vaginal sex with her makes all the difference in the world.

[โ€“] Mothra@mander.xyz 3 points 1 year ago

Absolutely but wouldn't that be already covered in regular sex ed topics? I don't see much of a difference in education requirements for promiscuous people vs not so promiscuous ones, other than keeping in mind the lottery analogy.

[โ€“] davi@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd be really curious to see material addressing contagious diseases and prevention specifically for promiscuous people, I wonder how it would differ from information addressed to a general audience.

i've learned from reddit and the knowledge i've gain feels less delusional and much more grounded in reality than anything a doctor has ever told me; try using a condom in a sex club (bathhouses not so much) and you'll end up learning how to enjoy your own company and block out being surrounding by men very enthusiastically enjoying their time with each other. lol

[โ€“] Alue42@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Perhaps you could look into some other sex clubs if you are looking into keeping yourself protected. There are ones that in order to get in one must provide an STD test from within 3 months and a recent one, and agree to use condoms with all encounters, and those caught trying to sneak the condom off would be blacklisted from the club (and from the community at large as talk travels quickly). Of course, access to a club with that kind of monitoring comes with a higher cost, but are highly kink-friendly and take protection of everyone's safety paramount, and encourage exploration.