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Days that nothing catastrophic happens, but lots of moderate things happen all in the same day? You wake up not feeling great, so the morning plans are toast. Then afternoon plans fall through. The stuff you do in the meantime doesn't work out well either. To add insult to injury, dinner just doesn't come out right. You feel like you are the butt of the jokes in a crappy comedy movie. Today is one of those days for me.

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[–] Rylyshar@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, sometimes, but I remember: Stress is not what happens to you; it’s how you react to what happens to you.

A lot of the little things that wear you down can be negative because of the way you look at them, or the amount of importance you give them. Looking at it another way, or comparing it to something more important, can change how depressing it could be.

Making breakfast and I drop something on the floor: what the hell, now the whole breakfast is ruined! OR well that was clumsy, let’s see what alternative meal I can come up with, challenge accepted.

Wake up with a headache: aw hell, this is a miserable start to the day, well, I’m sure it’s only gonna go downhill from here. OR Well, I guess I let myself get dehydrated. Drink some water, take some Excedrin, and lie back down for 15 minutes, and then on with my day.

You can train yourself to not wallow, and find that your mindset will change to be more positive, and/or less dramatic. Maybe not now, but every new setback is a new chance to try.

All that being said, sometimes I’ll just slam the bedroom door and lie down in bed and cuddle my cats for awhile.

Hang in there!