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I'm, apparently, a person who should kill himself according to reddit standards. I was already tired of all the site's bullshit and usacentrism but this was the tipping point.
The day we all came to know that Aimee Challenor had become an admin and was protected by banning whoever mentioned the name, I wrote a post in a small sub that I was part of saying that this monster didn't deserve to be a reddit admin, let alone to have his pronouns respected (as many were asking because he was a male who transitioned to female). Apparently, a person like that deserves respect and I should be ashamed of saying otherwise (and kill myself while I'm on it).
It goes without saying, I told everyone to fuck off, used a script to edit all my post changing comments with nonsense posts (thrice), canceled my account and asked all my data to be deleted through GDPR. I found Lemmy shortly after and I can't be happier with the change.
When you don't use someone's preferred pronouns, you marginalise the whole trans community -- even if the person you don't want to respect is indeed a monster.
People have certain characteristics about them that are immutable. That Challenor is a pedophile does not change the fact that they are trans and uses she/her pronouns. We can attack her on her actual crimes, and not on perceived crimes (of not being trans enough or, as it seems in this case, that being a pedophile forfeits any validation towards gender identity).
I lost you at "let alone to have his pronouns respected".
You disrespect somebody by refusing their identity and then you cry about being disrespected. In Norway we have a saying "den som er med på leken, må tåle steken". Those who join the game, must accept the grilling.
This does not put you in the good guy column as far as I'm concerned. Purposely using different pronouns than when someone's asking as an intentional means of denigrating them because you don't like them is like ground zero of stuff that is bad to do when it comes to the whole reason that pronouns exist.
I don't know anything about the situation that's a seriously bad indicator.
reddit's corruption went crazy ~1 yr ago
Was the script you used a userscript or did it use the Reddit api?
The fact that you think something as basic as using someone's pronouns is a privilege that can be revoked on a whim is an extremely weird thing to say