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[โ€“] Transcendant@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I dated women in their 40s while I was early 20s, we got some funny looks occasionally but generally no-one gave a shit. What two consenting adults do is their own business. Though now I'm in my early 40s, I don't think I'd have a lot in common with someone at 21; and maintain that just because it's 'legal' doesn't mean it's ethical, someone at 18 just does not have the life experience nor fully-formed pre frontal cortex to deal with someone who's fully-adult. Ripe for abuse imo.

[โ€“] SLaSZT@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, I completely agree that someone who is 18-20 just doesn't have the life experience to know a lot about relationships in general.

My wife dated a guy who was in his mid-40s when she was 18 and, with hindsight, it seems like her inexperience with life, intimacy, and relationships was actually something he was looking for (gross).

I guess I assumed that the person OP likes is at least in their mid-20s. I mostly added the legal adult part to cover my ass in case a snarky commenter was like, "oh what if she's 16?" trying to be smart.