I can understand why, they provide a better longevity as a safe space for the queer community in general. Like, I found that many gay bars have a serious longevity issue, gay guys come, straight woman who don’t want to be hit on come (some try and hit on the gay/bi guys there… which is just… a whole thing) then a bunch of straight guys show up because they hear there are lots of women at the place (and get upset when gay guys hit on them…)

So like i can see how lesbian bar would circumvent that, given the prevailing gender norms, you’re probably not going to get a bunch of straight guys seeking refuge from predatory woman coming to lesbian bars, and thus a bunch of straight women fallowing them and diluting the space.

I’m not trying to put blame on any group here, but like, trends driven by a series of innocent individual choices do be happening.

[–] delawen@floss.social 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Straight guys don't go to seek refuge to lesbian bars. They go to disrupt the space and see if they can convince some sapphic woman to sleep with him.

[–] megopie@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Doesn’t tend to work out so well for them usually.

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It does though, because their goal is to disrupt, and that's what they do, whatever else happens

[–] megopie@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

I mean, I think most of the time the goal is that they’re horny and see a lot of feminine presenting individuals in one place, and they’re to stupid, ignorant or sociopathic to understand.

They may puff up their chests and make a scene when rejected or told off but that’s probably an ego protection reaction on their part.

Perhaps I’m to generous, perhaps they go there just to make a scene, but I don’t really get what they would get out of that. Maybe they do it to impress their friends? It just seems like there are easier places for them to do that though.