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Long story short, it has been my 3rd time trying to graduate from college. How to find real strengths (aptitude that we can't change much)? Just want life to be easier. Thank you.

p.s. w Autism.

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[โ€“] rodbiren@midwest.social 37 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was a tutor in college and have been working for over a decade at this point in professional settings. I would gladly substitute aptitude with a proper attitude most days. Showing up to work, presenting more potential solutions than just problem identifying, and a willingness to learn will get you further than aptitude. Nobody has aptitude in Autodesk 2023. Nobody has aptitude in ultrasonic non destructive weld testing. You need to learn, be willing to learn, and be willing to try. It does not hurt to be able to communicate strongly either.

What you are strong in can also just be what you are not weak at. Finding all the things you struggle with is just as useful. Don't expect to find "The thing" you are just gifted at. Far better to be resilient and accept failure as it comes and learn. Natural talent is only a small part of the equation unless you are in sales.

[โ€“] WrittenWeird@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

"Unless you are in Sales" is a personality asterisk for so many things hahah!