Containers really shine in the selfhosting world in modern times. Complete userspace isolation, basically no worries about dependencies or conflicts since it's all internally shipped and pre-configured, easy port mapping, immutable "system" files and volume mounting for persistent data... And much more. If built properly, container images solve almost all problems you're grappling with.

I can't imagine ever building another application myself without containerization ever again. I can't remember the last time I installed any kind of server-side software directly on a host without containerization, with the exception of packages required by the host that are unavoidable to support containers or to increase security posture.

I'm my (admittedly strong) opinion, it's absolute madness, and dare I say, reckless and incomprehensible, why anybody would ever create a brand new product that doesn't ship via container images in this day and age, if you have the required knowledge to make it happen, or the capacity to get up to speed to learn how to make it happen (properly and following best practices of course) in time to meet a deadline.

I'm sure some would disagree or have special use-cases they could cite where containers wouldn't be a good fit for a product or solution, but I'm pretty confident that those would be really niche cases that would apply to barely anyone.