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I get what you are saying but life will throw enough bad stuff at you regardless, no need to make it worse with optional toxicity.
E.g. I used to be the person that others would come to with their drama and offer a sympathetic ear from desire to help and do good. Sometimes I offered too much to people who didnt appreciate it. Eventually I had to dial down some relationships or roles to protect myself and prioritise those who are closest and need it most.