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My partner went out tonight and gave me a shady excuse (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by neamhsplach@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

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They took off on their bike earlier and when they came back I asked where they'd been. They gave me an odd answer and I smelled a rat. I pointed out the inconsistencies and still they doubled down on the "why don't you trust me". I was unwell with worry at this point, I didn't know what to expect.

I don't advocate for going through people's data but I was a little bit insane at this point and I needed to know what was going on, consequences be damned. So after they fell asleep I looked at their phone. The last app that had been opened was 2good2go. The fucker had gone and picked up a free burrito without me and tried to hide it from me 🤣

What does it all mean?? Should I confront them or let it slide??

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[–] LemmyAtem@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can't tell if this is a joke post but my honest two cents is that you both have trust issues and there are some major red flags from you both. Your partner should not be worried about telling you where he was or what he was doing, and you should not be distrusting to the point that you're going through his phone. Especially over a burrito.

[–] neamhsplach@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry to say that this is indeed a true story, obviously heavily edited to remove any identifying features of the parties involved.

I do have an update for you all! When we woke up, I didn't want to talk about the phone situation so I just casually dropped burritos into a conversation earlier, waited a while, then asked them to be honest about where they had gone the night before. They came clean about the free burrito. From what I can gather, it sounded like a shameful stress induced feast that they didn't want to reveal to me. I've had similar issues in the past and boy do I empathise. I told them to either be more open in the future or at least get better at hiding it 🤣 my heart can't take any more secret burrito rendezvous.

A genuine thanks for all the comments, there has been some really heartfelt advice here 🥰 I'm not saying either of us acted perfectly in this situation and it is nice to be able to talk about it anonymously with all you lovely people.