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A chilly, distant demeanor. Is it an asshole that hates you, or is it an introvert that just wants to go home?
Honestly I'm an extrovert that gets lost in thought sometimes. I have the meanest looking resting removed face when I am. But I'm as gentle as a butterfly and always up for a good conversation if anyone approaches.
> resting removed face
What?
I think some instances remove swear words so you just see 'removed'
That is...really fucking annoying. What do they think we are? 6?
No, not all of us want to see such rude or derogatory words. Especially sexist, xenophobic, homophobic, transphobic, ableist or racist words.
I can't say bitch...?
You can, but users on their instance can't
Why would anyone want to be on an instance like that?
I don't know. It's a right removed.
But more seriously it might just be that they found that instance first and haven't seen that problem that much yet (or figured out it's their instance that does it) or that they haven't figured out how to switch instances yet (or haven't taken the time). Or some people actually like it. It's just weird to me, but I'm in the penultimate category I mentioned.
not all of us want to see such rude or derogatory words. Especially sexist, xenophobic, homophobic, transphobic, ableist or racist words.
You can but why would you want to?
Son of a bitch... they're right!
For anyone interested, it's the infamous slur filter. I didn't know that it replaced things with removed though, I thought it meant "distant" or some such ๐
Closely related is someone who's just a bit to the point with their responses. I don't mean the "I'm just saying" people; those people are assholes. I mean stuff like when someone skips the pleasantries and dives right into their question or comment. Instead of saying "hi", they'll dive right into saying "I have an issue with X". Or when they see something wrong when reviewing your work, they'll just outright say "this isn't right" without trying to sugarcoat it.
Personally, I like when people do that, particularly from people I know have good intentions. I don't want to waste time doing some "hi, how are you / I'm good, yourself?" sort of handshake when someone has a question for me. And reviews are a constant, daily thing in my job (software dev), so I don't want time wasting flowery language in review comments, nor do I want to waste time typing such up myself.
Yes
Why not both
Oh, like Mr. Darcy!