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I was surprised to realize that I’m too tired for feedback.
Been a feedback junky my whole life and actively seeking it out. But after my last two jobs really beating me down without any sign of respect or good intention, I’m just totally burned out. Unless we have a very long standing, well established relationship based on mutual respect, and unless I know that you know more than me in the area we’re about to talk about… I don’t wanna hear how you think I’m doing and I don’t feel like doing it better right now.
Wow, I think you just shed a huge light on what I thought was just a bad aspect of my personality that makes me difficult to work with.
So I guess this counts as something I recently learned about myself.
Is it the right time to say it, the right thing to say, am I the right person to say it, are they in the right frame of mind to hear it, and is it necessary?
That’s the gold standard of changing people’s behavior for the better, and I rarely hit it.