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Going through the process of discovering I was trans and surrounding myself with trans people really made me re-examine how little work Iโd done on issues of race, among other things. So many of the little passive aggressive things I found myself getting annoyed at cis people doing, I also found myself doing to people of color. Nothing particularly awful, but definitely inconsiderate.
In this regard I'm probably an ignorant simpleton, so what would be an example of common behavior that people think is fine but is in fact inconsiderate or offensive to others?
100%! And it's structurally ingrained, so it involves a very un-fun process of relearning certain habits that don't feel that bad until you force doses of empathy on yourself, the latter of which I think is in the neighborhood of your experience. It means you have to criticize, forgive, and change yourself, which I personally don't enjoy even though it's so important.
PS happy pride!