you're gonna blame women's traumatic responses for that? no woman made Andrew Tate say or do any of the things he did. he made his own choices. I get that men are lonely, and it sucks, but women lowering their guards puts them at serious risk. that's why they talk about needing to be careful around men. again, we cannot tell who is and is not a rapist by looking at them. if men want to stop being lonely, the first step is to break down the walls between each other. women cuddle with their friends, share their closest feelings, cry, and find emotional intimacy in each other when they can't turn to men. men need to do the same when they can't turn to women. this is not an easy problem to solve, as men have been taught to repress their feelings, and telling women to just put themselves at risk so men don't have to be lonely is unfair. it's not our job to fix broken men, and it never has been. they need therapy. when it is safer for women, they will stop acting so cautious. until then, you will unfortunately have to deal with women coming across cold and aloof because they don't want to risk their safety. it is always possible to overcome this in individual relationships, but the broader pattern won't change as long as women feel unsafe.
I never generalized about all men. I'm not treating this as oppositional, just acknowledging real social forces. I never said all men are evil and suck, nor did anyone. the original post said that men are not being raised in a way that makes them desirable as adults, and that's true. it doesn't mean no man is desirable. you're the one taking that personally. there is no bandwagon here, just women talking about their experiences and it predictably getting derailed. there's no us vs them, this can and should be a productive thing to talk about for everyone involved, but most men are very prone to getting defensive, so all that happens is an argument.
in online spaces, men always have an issue with women being "overly general" whenever we refer to general trends, patterns, and even our own personal experiences. if men want to complain about the cold treatment they get from women, they can and that's valid, because I've been on the receiving end of that and it sucks. but they don't seem to talk about it separately, it's always an either-or, the idea that only one of these sides can be valid, and they always try to speak over women or use their feelings as a reason women need to stop talking about theirs.