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TIL, but honestly this was valuable education because to old white guys really was not engaging.

It could have been the delivery of the conversation, something like:

Hey , and i noticed your daughter loves our Dogs, since we work most days would you be comfortable with her helping out <your partner, and I> in the mornings or evenings? We are getting started on our family but our little helper will take a few years before we can put them to work.

Women are generally seen as less threatening, so having conversations where you drop your partners name and status in front of yours helps. Identifying yourself as a parent, or working to be a parent also can "soften" your male appearance. Finally, dont push, drop it and take no for an answer because some people are never going to be comfortable.

Also dont expect your words or message to be translated to adult, there have been times where our kids have said things that "they were told by an adult" and when we have called the school/daycare/friends parent, its often a misunderstanding where the kid has no idea what the context or specifics meant so they tried to convey their own version. So next time keep it short and sweet, and if possible immediate. "Are your parents around... Could I talk to your <DAD/MOM>.... we need to get <DAD/MOM>s permission first"

A few things that have helped me in the past are being prepared. While my kids were in diapers or potty training I rolled everywhere with spare gear and I was quick to offer to other parents, especially at parks and public areas where people can be caught unprepared.

I had a situation in an airport where a Mom was overwhelmed trying to hold 1 kid, keep another in the stroller, and sign the doc's to check her strollers and car seats. I was already in line, so I said "Im not going anywhere, can I help you with something or hold one of your kids?" She did an up and down check, realized I was in fact in line, and its an airport, so she handed me her baby and I stood where she could see me and rocked them while she finished what she had to do.

I would also suggest taking some child safety classes, I coach sports, and am a Den leader in our local Cub Scout Pack. Both programs required me to take classes regarding identifying child predators, unsafe situations, and child abuse and how to report them. Classes like these can help you see interactions from an outside risk perspective.

Dad here, I have both been the guy, and been the parent and in a safe area where you have some control basic human trust can be enough. I always ask/offer, try not to be creepy.

I often start off, with something like "I can sympathize, I have two myself, would you like some help? I would say 50% of the time they say yes, and the rest its a combo of fear or embarrassment because they think needing help is shameful, which it is not, your community exists to help and thats how humans did it for 100k's years until the 1950's ruined everything.

Never sit on water issues, water will do more damage to a house than just about anything short of a fire. I would assume if your house was on fire you would call someone.... take water just as seriously.

The longer water issues go the more work and the more cost. If the house is only 5 years old, it should have been covered under the builders warranty as soon as it was noticed.

we have ours pumped every 2-3 years, house of 4. Rain wont fill it up, because it will eventually end up in the leach field and levels will go down. Solids are the risk when dealing with overflowing septic because it will get into the pipe to the leach field and clog that, causing a backup in your plumbing.

as for the smell, it depends, every house I have lived in with septic would get a wiff from time to time depending literally on the direction of the wind. The house that had the least smell was a 3 story house in the north east where its cooler, the one with the most was a house in the south east that was only 1 story.

Height of the vent makes a difference, as can using products like Rid-X to help keep things broken down particularly fats which can really stink up a septic system.

That looks like the closest successor to the pebble I think I've ever seen.

I may need to order one and test it out.

if it existed I would be using it. Garmin is the next closest not total crap "smart" watch.

Old Pebble if you can find a working one that someone will part with.

its like $5-30 DIY. Or $100+ if you hire someone to clean it.

"I'd vote for Harris for a heartbeat"

Fixed it for you.

Mechanical cleaning is the only reliable way to clean a drain, period.

Edited to add suggestions and detail:

Most clogs are between the elbow and drain so something simple like the item below is more than enough to break free or pull out hair, and toothpaste, as well as anything else that might be stuck in drain or in the stopper parts. https://www.amazon.com/Grabber-Remover-Kitchen-Bathroom-Cleaning/dp/B07RMHNHYC/ref

In the case where the above is NOT enough, $30 gets you a cheap 25ft snake that is going to cover the bulk of other situations where you have a clog.
https://www.amazon.com/Plumbing-Adapter-Flexible-unblocking-Powered/dp/B0D46TQBQ9/ref

Some general basic notes: A food disposal is for the little bits that you cant scrape off into your compost or trash, ITS NOT A TRASH CAN. Please dont put stuff down the disposal that you could have removed from a plate or dish.

Fats and Grease go in the trash not down the drain. If you are pouring out your bacon grease or remaining cooking oil, or anything fatty it turns to a solid almost as soon as it hits the drain. Running hot water with it wont keep it liquid, and dish soap wont keep it emulsified. It will slowly build up in the pipes and you will get a fat burg/plug that causes a clog. Wipe fatty/greasy pans and dishes with a paper towel and throw it in the trash, for large quantities like Bacon grease you can use a can or jar that you store in the freezer until its full and then toss in the trash.

215c is probably too high for PLA

Maybe try out a Temp Tower and see where the sweetspot is on your stuff.

I run mostly Pollymaker PLA and I find the best prints at 190c.