Top: pollinated. Bottom, not.
You can tell by color and how plump the top one is behind the flower. Also, unpollinated flowers will fall off. I’m not a botanist so I can’t tell you what the parts of the flower are called.
I read that this cactus was not self-fertile but brushing the flowers together has produced fruit. It doesn’t mean the seed is viable but I will try down the line.
It’s just the internet. Lemmy has features built in to reduce mod abuse like a public modlog anyone can view without logging in. IMO the reddit format was never good for discussing heated topics.