Lumo

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[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not the most knowledgable on this, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

What should be the most important is how you yourself feel, and then labels should come with that, and not the other way around: you shouldn't "choose" to identify as demiboy, and then try to change how you act and behave to try and match what's on the label.

The fun in labels and the such is that you can interpret them as you want (for yourself)! You can say you identify as demiboy and mean with that 100 boy, 50 girl or 100 boy, 23 girl or even 100 boy, 75 girl and none of those are more correct or a better fit to the demiboy label: it all comes down to what you decide "demiboy" means to you (also this applies to any other gender you might identify as, I'm just picking demiboy as an example as it's a bit more specific).

Also, you can always change your mind after choosing a label, it isn't set in stone so another option you have is to just pick one and roll with it, find out how it feels and how YOU feel about it, and if you don't like it then pick something else and try that!

I hope this makes some sense and is maybe helpful. Good luck on your discovery journey !

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

This is something I've been thinking about a lot recently but I don't really know what to concretely do. I considered joining Extinction Rebellion or something but I don't really agree with their methods.

The route I've been mostly considering was starting something at my university and try and get the university board or whatever to actually take climate change seriously but I have my doubts on that working.

Does anyone have some suggestions on concrete actions one can take ?

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

In this case yeah, it's formulated quite awkwardly by me since (I'm just gonna stick to she) she goes by she/her in daily life, but online she uses she/them and she told me she felt nonbinary to some degree although she hadn't told anyone else so I didn't really know what pronouns to use so I thought "let's roll with both".

Her exact words were something like "I just go by as female because I don't want to deal with the hassle of having to explain to people" so I actually don't know what she'd prefer in an ideal world

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

That's in a way a bit what I'm wondering about, like I don't want to come off as performative so I usually wouldn't bring it up except if the context made it relevant, but I also don't know if not explicitly supporting the LGBTQ community is passively enabling bigotry or something

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 20 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Like I don't feel like I'm an ally because I don't really go out of my way to show it? I don't really know how to explain it other than my sister who is very explicitly an ally, like she has a bunch of rainbow stuff in her room and on her backpack etc and has a lot of queer friends while on my end I don't really show that? Like of course if someone was being a piece of shit towards my gay friends I'd step up and try and defend them, but that goes for any of my friends too?

Again I don't really know how to word it but I don't recognize myself in the term "ally" (although I've been considering putting a rainbow pin on my backpack or something because rainbows are cool)

 

First of all I'd like to apologize in advance for any insensitive statements I might make (I hope I don't though), I'm trying my best not to and I was just curious :)

I'm an 18-year-old cishet guy currently in uni and recently the thought popped into my head that I have no clue how the LGBTQ community would view me as someone who's not in the space or actively an ally. I would more accurately describe myself currently as a "don't care" person in the sense that to me it genuinely does not matter what someone identifies as or who someone is attracted to. I don't know how much this means, but I have multiple gay friends, my roommate is bi and I dated a person who went as a girl in day to day life because it was more convenient to her/them although she/they told me she/they partially identified as nonbinary (correct pronoun usage pls >.<) but I don't know if all this is the classic "but i have a black friend" argument that racists use.

To cut to the point: I'm curious as to how I would be seen by queer people in general, as I've witnessed both very inclusive and nice people (mostly here), but also some that said that LGBTQ places are not to be used by cishet people and I'm wondering what the best attitude to take would be.

Thanks!

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

The problem with carbon capture is that yes it exists, but is not nearly close to good enough for our needs. Add to that the fact that we physically do not have enough materials on Earth to implement it on the scale required and that becomes a tough pill to swallow.

I'm hopeful that some farming techniques may be promising and that not everyone's going to die, but relying on technology that doesn't really work yet seems foolish.

At any rate I'm not gonna sit around and twiddle my thumbs, I'm probably going to become an activist this summer instead and see where that takes me

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I appreciate the advice and I am considering therapy right now.

I'm unsure about returning to my previous "carpe diem"-esque lifestyle, because at the moment I am pretty convinced that disaster is coming within the decade and I'm afraid that every moment will be tainted by this fear. I also don't know if I want to talk to other people about this, because I don't want to push this onto them and make them feel the same way as I do now.

And yes, every generation thought they'd be the last but I do think ours is in a bit of a more dire situation. Maybe that's just a dumb take on my part, but that's how I feel at the moment.

Sorry for basically dumping all my yucky feelings right now but I guess it had to come out somehow and I'm not waking up my roommate at 4AM

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for the advice. I was planning on getting more informed on the topic so as to be able to talk to others about it better, because right now I think it would come across as incohesive rambling.

As to the part about me as an individual not being able to fix anything, while on one hand that is true and I already do what I can personally, the one thing I can try to do is to get more people involved because it feels like we're a train hurtling towards a cliff and two people on board even know where we're heading.

To be honest I am quite young and now it feels like most of the meaning in my life is ruined, and I don't think I can go back to how I was before. My plan for now is making trying my best to avert what's coming my life quest, but I don't know how that will make me.

I'm sorry for ranting but I guess I am quite emontionally distressed now, which is kind of the first time this happens to me and I don't know how to process it.

Thanks for your time and sorry again!

 

I'll keep this short and sweet. Some random guy on the internet compiled together and summarized a bunch of climate research papers analyzing global trends and a bunch of different slow actors that are all going to kick in soon like the permafrost in Russia or the polar ice caps etc.

While I have not yet gone through the sources the author links and quotes extensively, this still has me extremely worried and I think that unless society somehow drastically changes and devotes a significant effort in doing something about it, we're all going to die within half a century.

I'm sorry for bringing doomerism into a safe space like Beehaw, but I'm scared and I can't sleep.

Also I'm not going to link the document in question because the author goes on a rant about billionaires and greed, and while I haven't decided whether or not I agree I'm not sure the tone fits the community.

Sorry again and have a good one !

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for all the advice! My sleep schedule is already all over the place so I might as well try the naps during the day tactic. I was also considering removing my duvet but the main problem is that i wouldn't have anywhere to store it, but I'll find a way (until now i kind of balled it up at the end of the bed).

My condolences for the poorly designed house/apartment, stuff really sucks especially now that both winter and summer are getting more extreme

 

Hey everyone!

I'll cut straight to the chase: I've been living in the Netherlands these last couple years, and due to it being close to the sea and other factors it is usually quite windy and comfortably cool.

Cue one of the hottest summers we've had in a while and now my cold-seasoned self cannot get used to it being 27°C at night, and as such I find myself writing this at 3AM on a Sunday night.

I live in a shitty small apartment with no AC and my window barely opens, so I'm wondering if anyone has some tips for dealing with this (or if you don't then you're welcome to join me in complaining about the weather (I am very bored)).

Thanks and have a nice day !