Hera

joined 1 year ago
[–] Hera@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

You might not like it, but I have huge barbie issues and went with my 11 yo thinking it would be okay and poke a but of fun and have a slightly feminist bent. I truly loved every minute and am surprised how much I did. It is formulaic but done really well.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I wouldn't do it at home. I'm wondering about restaurants that do this. Idk but I'm sure it isn't good.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Yup, I use glassware at home almost exclusively. Just that piping hot restaurant food in plastic ware. Honestly, I just rather cook my family food that I know is made with love and care. Can't do it all the time though.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

That makes sense. I use glass Tupperware at home and always cringe when my husband brings home the plastic ware from a restaurant piping hot.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (8 children)

I wonder about hot food in plastic containers? I try to avoid but some places my family loves puts piping hot food in plastic.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Too young. Far too young. I appreciate her voice and the harm she called attention to. Long live Sinead O'Connor.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

your user name 🤣

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

I totally get your thinking, and really thought this put and almost went that route. But she is 11, I want to see how she uses this stuff and have an active part in it and teaching her how to navigate because at this age there is no holding back. Maybe if all the kids had dumb phones that tracked location or something but it is not the world we live in. I pretty much agree with the comment below yours except on social media. I have a hard fucking no stop and I think, I can't be sure but really think, my kid gets why that is just so terrible. Thankfully we don't use it so it's easier to call that a cesspool. We'll aside from reddit and now lemmy 😉

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Why thank you. Not many wins in life so I'm gonna take this comment into the weekend, Friend. Be well!

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I'm with you on this. I blocked them too and my kid knows why. The commenter above may mean more using/having a smart phone and internet access generally and I reluctantly agree for the most part. But yeah, fuck social media and it's debilitating impact. Not just on youth, I don't use that shit because five minutes makes my fairly successful ass feel terrible too! Just toxic all around.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (9 children)

As a parent with a kid entering middle school who just got a phone (average age for one in this area) here is my 2 cents:

  • I want my kid to have a phone more for me than her. There are no pay phones and if, heaven forbid, some shit goes down (we are on America and shit goes down in schools) I need to not only be able to allow her to easily contact us and us to contact her, I need to know her location. Past events have shown we can't count on anyone else. Barring school shootings, I would not be anywhere near as concerned about her having one. I know parents of kids with severe allergies also want kids to have a phone on them.

  • Since she could talk we have talked about media and it's influence on her mind and life. That talk has evolved as she has grown. I studied the impact of harmful media, so in this way I have the privilege of knowing why this education is so vital. She knows what she watches and puts out there can impact her in insane ways. And though I have to slowly trust that this took root in her as I cant control what she watches forever, things like Google family link can help me block sites and apps, make her ask for permission etc. She knows I do this and why and she will talk to me when she thinks she should have access. It's a conversation.

  • I know her friends parents don't do this. Which I also know allows her access other ways, again, I have to slowly hope this education worked. I wonder if more parents instead were taught to take these steps if it would help and if we taught students directly. There are privacy concerns too though, my kid knows I'm here parent, not the government, she has no expectation of privacy on her phone (mostly anyway) at this age from me, but she should from her school so I wouldn't want them to be allowed to block etc.

[–] Hera@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I see. So if I find a den stay away! Thank you for the cute pics! We have been in this home for years but since our beloved puppy passed the wildlife are taking advantage of his yard.

 
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