CandleTiger

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[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 16 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Preach on.

I went to the Women's Rights National Historical Park in Seneca Falls, NY, and of all the things that really struck me hard there (it was a lot) I think the biggest hit was realizing how fucking long it took between the start of mainstreaming the movement and women actually getting the vote. None of the women who started that movement lived long enough to cast their own vote.

There was no "women's black panthers". There was no threat of violence if women can't control their own lives. Everybody got to pretty much just stay comfortable with their nice order. And change did. not. happen. For years.

Maybe the slow pace was worth it, I don't know. I'm not a woman and I'm not much devoted to order. But it seems pretty clear that "avoid offending anybody" is not an effective tool for change.

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 5 points 2 days ago

Having your kids watch you lose your dignity is not going to make a good relationship.

They are very attuned to that sort of thing. If they watch one parent allow and invite the other to trample on them the kids will also lose respect.

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 5 points 2 days ago

I bought a shirt once in Pittsburgh that says, “Yinz is a gender-neutral p pronoun”

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 1 points 3 days ago

How do they know what it should cost?

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 3 points 4 days ago

Installing HVAC ducts in blistering hot attics is backbreaking work but people can be found to do that.

I wonder what those people get paid, and whether they have access to bathroom breaks, clean drinking water on the job, and a decent place to sleep at night?

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 2 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Maybe if they increased the wages or improved the working conditions, people would come do the work after all?

Just spitballing, here….

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 1 points 1 week ago

Ok, uhhhh… you are saying here that difficulty understanding the words to music is an autism thing?

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 4 points 1 week ago

Thank you, this is useful advice

 

I find after this election that I have an unexpectedly pressing need to wave large obnoxious flags from my sensible fuel-efficient subcompact while I drive.

Has anybody got models, templates, suggestions for how to mount a stout pole to a hatchback? I’m thinking of some kind of tube on a short arm that I could close the rear passenger door or the cargo door on to hold it in place.

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

(Not a woman): my partner does not like receiving oral sex or other kinds of sex where she is mostly passive/receiving, because she doesn’t like feeling put on the spot and obligated to react.

If your partner has been not getting much from sex for a long time now, then she is also probably feeling a lot of pressure to change and behave right and react as expected which would be not pleasant for her.

Maybe ask her if she wants to play a game where she reads a book out loud (sexy book or bit sexy book) or play a cozy video game or some other activity where you get to enjoy yourself playing with her body for potentially a long time, and she has something else to pay attention to besides her own sexual performance? That would probably also go well with deep toys on low power as well.

Just, maybe avoid Call of Duty for this one. It has to be a lazy activity she’s doing. If her attention is successfully diverted 100% to the point the sex is an irritating distraction then that’s not any fun for anybody

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 13 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Now explain the passenger seat

[–] CandleTiger@programming.dev 18 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I bought my very own gas station squeegee at a car parts store . Life-changing events.

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