Seek internal validation over external validation. Once I learned how to value my opinion of myself over other peoples', my life improved tremedeously.
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The Uncanny Valley is real.
I was undiagnosed my whole life until early adulthood, and therefore always tried to pass as NT, because I never knew what's wrong with me.
I trained myself for years to mimic NT behaviour, including facial expression, gestures, voice tone, and much more.
Everyone here can probably relate to that how incredible hard it is to achieve that, but I somehow did! Great! Right? Right...?
NOPE!
While I was 99% there, the 1% missing made everything worse.
Those are the tiny tiny nuances that you just can't replicate, like microexpressions, or some minor mistakes you made, like looking at the wrong direction while "thinking" or whatever shit they made up.
And those tiny incoherences are what will destroy everything. Many people will dislike or mistrust you, and the worst thing about that is that they don't even know why!
They'll accuse you to being a liar, because you act sketchy, or that you are "fake", or whatever you can think about.
I'm currently in the process of un-learning all of that and stop being someone else.
Sure, many people will dislike you just for who you are, but seriously, if someone doesn't have a good time around you just because your voice sounds too flat or because you don't laugh back at them then fuck that person.
We have 8 billion people on this planet, there will be at least one person out there that appreciates your weirdness
Try to find a way to incorporate one of your hyperfixates into how you make money. It makes work suck a little less.
No, don't. Good idea at first glance, but horrible on the second, at least from my experience.
While work will be way more pleasant, it might be too pleasant, and you'll spend more energy and focus than you might realise.
Your boss will notice that too, and give you a heck lot of more work to do than your colleagues, for the same wage.
You'll work and work and work, and then you wake up with a burnout.
No one, except you, will notice that.
And then you can't give 200% anymore, but only 100% from now on.
In your bosses eyes, you have gotten just lazy and not interested anymore, just because they're used to you overstraining yourself.
And last but not least, they'll dump you into the trash because they can't extract even more resources out from you, and no one will care. You are just a human resource, that's why the department in companies is called that way.
Don't be stupid. Don't be me!