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A lot of ceremony-like events confuse me.

They seem designed to be as tedious and gruelling as possible. Consider Graduation Ceremonies, or the ceremonial part of Weddings. Just hours in a hard chair, listening to some old motherfucker blabber on and on about random bullshit. (the parties afterwards I understand and respect, even if I'm the opposite of a party person. The only thing I like about parties is the excuse to dress up and eat cake. But hey, people enjoy dancing and drinking and stuff, that makes sense to me.)

Is this some Neurotypical thing I'm too Autistic to understand? Like do people actually enjoy this?

EDIT: Actually, since I brought up drinking when talking about parties.

.... I don't comprehend people that like alcoholic drinks. It's one thing to enjoy the feeling of being buzzed, we all want to turn off our brains sometimes, and of course it is literally addicting.

But I am talking about people who apparently enjoy the taste. Every type of booze I tried tasted like something between "medicine" and "actual poison".

People will spend a fortune in Wines and Beers and they all just taste bad. Then they'll swear up and down "no no dude, this wine is super sweet" and then you try it and it tastes like every other wine, which is to say it tastes like you took grape juice and sucked out all the joy.

Breeding

Rally 'round the flag effect

Like, why???

Its like... your parents have been abusing you for your entire life, and a sudden home invasion is gonna make you love your parents? 🤨

Nah, it feel like some weird movie/tv script where 2 people bond over a traumatic event, too cliche. Doesn't even feel real.

Impersonal revenge. I understand the overwhelming emotions when it personally happens to you and needing that "payback". Not that i support it, but i understand it and I'm pretty sure I'd feel the same at the moment if it happened to me. But when it's people you don't know, and you still seek "justice"? There's no justice in increasing cruelty in the world. It only makes the world worse, not better. I think a lot of prejudices, like racism and such, evolve from this way of thinking, and our civilization would be a better place if we stop our revenge centered thinking. Hurting someone because they hurt you or others is weird to me. There are so many other ways to punish people without hurting them without a benefit other than "it makes me feel good to see them hurt because they're bad people".

Handshaking. We’ve both touched our crotch recently, let’s not

A very light one, but "Gotta have it all" attitudes in video games.

I too, remember the Gamecube days when the console didn't connect to the internet, and if there was anything to unlock in the game, it came from hitting buttons really well. We're now in the days where the glittery, shiny purple armor (with the same armor stat) sometimes costs money. And yeah, quite often it's more money than I'd say it's worth.

I guess I just don't get the people who still get a bunch of "cool" things in the game, but still feel angsty and frustrated because they don't have everything - because they haven't completely cleared their minimap of every objective, gotten a platinum achievement, or grabbed that one pointless thingy that only shows up through RNG.

I tend to experience a "majority" of games that I enjoy, and that already is enough to absorb a lot of my time. For games that have DLC content, I might buy one or two skins I like, and still spend less in total, inflation-adjusted, than I would on one disc back on my gamecube.

People who stay with abusive partners the first time they are abused

When you discover a bump somewhere on your skin and the very first reaction is to scratch and dig whatever may be there, out.

Kissing. Why? What's the point of it? What's the appeal?

Why people use comic sans

(Don't come at me, dyslexic people)

Watching reading videos.

I also enjoy these, but what on earth is that about? We have videos of someone's face telling a story, we have videos of things happening for us to see (real and fake), why are stories read aloud while the words appear on the screen so interesting?

Also, we have access to the websites where these stories are coming from. This is the part that does make sense to me, I often miss those certain comments that make the best stories... So it's like a best of the best compilation to watch the reading videos.

But still, why? Why is a reading video the preferred way to find these cherry picked posts and comments from Reddit and Tumblr. Wouldn't a Best Of collection of screenshots or reposts do that job?

Most of them