General Discussion

I agree in general, however they are here as well. Already experienced it myself. Those types will never go away completely.

It's so much easier to comment on Lemmy because it isn't a toxic cesspool waiting to tear you apart

Yet...

But I hope it stays that way ... so behave! ರ⁠_⁠ರ

In my case it's like sitting to discuss on a table with 10 people versus 300 where noise is much bigger.

I typically lurk due to this. Maybe this community will allow me to come out a little more and be comfortable doing it

Yet...

And it depends on the instance you're on. I am on beehaw especially because of this, respect.

This fediverse thing feels like a community, rather than like you get elsewhere.

Both are fine for spending time relaxing and scrolling. Only one feels like there’s something worthwhile about it.

I've generally only had good interactions on reddit. The trolls aren't very hard at sussing out when you've seen enough of them. You can either interact with them knowing that you're not talking to them, but the people reading, or you simply block them if they start spamming your replies. A quick report and they get banned relatively quickly anyway lol.

Like others have said above, don't worry. That'll be coming here too. Once the tipping point is reached the comments will be just like reddit.

I first joined reddit back around 2009 and this is pretty much how it was back then. Small discussions, generally pretty friendly. Discussion was ok, debate would usually have sources to back up claims. I wonder if anybody else here is from that time. It was about when Snoo became the official mascot, there was that narwhal bacon slogan, the scandal with the biologist that we all loved until it was discovered he was pumping up his own posts and comments with alts. Good times. I wonder if Lemmy will follow the same path

Give it time, man.

I think part of it is early adopters of any new, not-yet-mainstream technology are more open to differences, after all, we’re all doing something different.

Also, when you’re an early part of something, you want it to be the best that it can be, whereas when you are part of this massive corroborate social network you don’t feel that same responsibility.

Exactly the same here! I lurked on Reddit for yeeears (like, the pre Pao days). I made one post in a very specialized sub, and three general comments elsewhere. The post went well, I got a quick answer but it really could have been an e-mail or forum post. The general comments were absolute DUMPSTER FIRES, and so I never did engage or contribute.

Lemmy has been so different, the community is smaller, but every post interaction I've had it feels like the folks I am engaging with read what I wrote and are making a good faith effort.

After the last ten years of social media, it's a little... weird. But good weird. "Oh, this is what it's supposed to be like."

My early Reddit experience was scary that way. I'd quickly learn the hard way (e.g. with antics and misunderstanding) that the name of a subreddit was either an early intention or an inside joke (that I didn't fully get).

Far right subs banhammered me for failing to speak the newspeak and signaling appropriate allegiances. Far left subs banhammered me for... saying something tankie-adjacient, I guess? I'm still not sure what atlantism is.

Well, this. I used to just lurk at the R site but over here I post and comment more freely.

I feel the same way, such a nice place here :)