No Stupid Questions

Probably because so many parents suck.

Purely for dumb reasons. If you don't need to escape from them and it makes financial sense go for it and ignore anyone who judges you for it... they're assholes.

If you want to get to the heart of a terrible practice or belief, look at who is pushing it (not simply buying it) and who is benefiting. This is a very recent idea (like, you might still be able to find a grandma who was raised before that stupid shit took off) pushed to keep people poor and generally weaker than they otherwise would be. If you've got multiple generations, or even families, living together they have far more breathing room economically.

Historical cultural difference between the US and other countries. Although it is less prevalent now, it was expected for a male to be on his own and "leave the nest" as soon as they graduated high school, with college being that transition point if an education was pursued.

The old America where you left home as soon as you could and built your own life with hard work and skill is long gone, but the trope and the expectations are still there.

If you’re in an East Asian culture, it’s not.

I never understood this. If rent wasn't so stupid high I would've had my own place long ago.

in the US, we value independence - and living with your parents after you're 18 is the polar opposite, or so society would lead you to believe.

It can be a bad thing for your parents if you are not contributing in any way. Humiliation doesn't always help in promoting self-improvement but it is a social tool that establish social expectations. Producing value is expected in most societies. What changes is what value ought to be defined.

This dates back to when buying a house in your twenties wasn’t a crazy idea out of a science fiction novel.

I would have but I got caught up in the great recession before I could leave.

then when I finally got enough money to consider looking for a place, I received a very serious medical condition that wiped out finances and seriously affected my working ability. this condition also makes it almost necessary for someone to be around. so unless I hit the powerball or megamillions I'm going to be in my parents house for a while.

Back when I was a kid in the early 2000s we still had the mentality that it was easy to get a good job and buy a house and love by yourself. So when a young adult didn't, the stigma was that they were too lazy to get a great job handed to them.

Since at least the 2008 recession that really hasn't been the case, but the culture hasn't caught up, or was slower to catch up.

Love my family, would hate living with them - just because we are very different people.

In 10 years, that will be the norm.

Disregarding different societal norms, I find it interesting that some people don't have the intrinsic need to gtfo to a more personal space, be it either nice or shitty parents.

Because the people at the top who greenlight everything are rich and think anyone that would live with their family past the age of 18 is a lazy shit stain. That's the answer. It doesn't matter if it doesn't make a shred of sense, it's just the truth.

My parents suck. If you have to put up with their shit you're definitely a loser.

Must be an american skill issue

I think folks are missing a huge cultural point of moving out with roommates. It's culturally acceptable to move away from parents but live with like 3+ roommates starting with college / university and then well into establishing your career. I did this and most folks I know did this in Canada. Honestly some of the greatest times of my life. I and my roommates moved out at 18 to do this and I wouldnt have done it any other way. So many great independence skills came up during that time and just a great sense of freedom (even with working and school being a huge part of everything)