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[–] madeline@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 11 months ago (3 children)

i think i would fall over and die on the spot if this happened to me

[–] theuberwalrus@lemmy.world 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] madeline@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Is Madeline your name or did you base your username off of a particular mountaineer

[–] madeline@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] kittehx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 months ago

Oh damn Madeline is my name too

[–] euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago

I def would too

[–] LegionEris@feddit.nl 16 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

EDIT: This hasn't happened in years, of course. These days, yeah, I look like a 34 year old woman >_>

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Option a : So?

Option B : And?

Option C : what's your point?

[–] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 11 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Option D: “hm” while looking straight at them

No matter the context it seems like a rude comment to make. But you may also want to avoid continuing the conversation, so a quick hm before walking away seems like a good middle ground.

[–] bappity@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago
[–] lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Hey this sorta happened to me irl.

Them: What's going on with your hair?
Me, closeted: I'm experimenting.
Them: That's what women do.
Me: Whatever (shuffles away awkwardly)

Obviously the true solution was to just come out right then and there... but my hair was a mess.

[–] Bongles@lemm.ee 8 points 11 months ago

I'm a guy and I've been experimenting with my hair lately, so fuck'em.

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago

Similar issue with my friend on couple occasions asking if I'm a girl and my step mom also asking. Mostly because of hair. But I've always answered no since I'm not (as far as I'll admit to myself).

[–] backhdlp@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 11 months ago

I once said pog because I didn't know what to say

[–] ccx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Thanks, I was going for that today. 🟨⬜🟪⬛

The annoying one is when they say one thing and then start correcting and apologizing. And I can't stop them to give a 20 minute lecture on gender identity and my lack thereof. (-:

[–] euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

might steal this

[–] Draegur@lemm.ee 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Wait is this a complement or a taunt

and which one should I be more worried about...

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Could just be a statement, not intendent to be complement or taunt? But I'd assume more likely to be a taunt because that's my basically my default assumption about most complements.

[–] Draegur@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

Sounds like the only realistic response, regardless of correctness, would inevitably be "y-you too..."

[–] ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think the giant smile on my face, and blush in my cheeks would say more than words...

Nobody has been that blunt with me yet. They have found many ways to give me feminine compliments tho. A demure "awww thanks" is my standard reply.

[–] euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I wish I could say that but my masculine voice would completely ruin it

[–] ThatFembyWho@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

My voice doesn't pass by any means, but I do have a softer, higher register that I've often used in situations like that my whole life. I work on making it a little more feminine over time, and try to use it more often. My partner and I work on it all the time, because they are fully supportive of my transition and never judge.

I just had my first official endo appt and she's referring me to a group vocal therapy for trans folks, so I'm super nervous but also super excited to practice!

[–] euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

lucky. also for me, my voice is sooo deep i cant do it because it just sounds buzzy, hell i cant quietly talk because of it. i dont know why now but this gave me an incentive/motivation to start some kind of voice training

[–] wizzwizz4@fosstodon.org 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's my firm belief that there's no such thing as a masculine voice.

I know, I know, but: consider After Ever After by Paint (https://yewtu.be/watch?v=diU70KshcjA), or direct speech in a well-read single-narrator audiobook. There are objective sonic qualities of a voice, but that's not how human perception works. I can guarantee you're overthinking it. (Though if you want to mix up your speaking habits, by all means go for it! I recommend learning to do impressions and accents, for awesomeness purposes.)

[–] euphoric_cat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

i'd be inclined to agree but how things are now society doesnt agree so...

[–] JPAKx4@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 11 months ago

This is my SO lol. It's fun but I always feel bad bc of how awkward it makes them feel

[–] Smoregoose@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

Omg the first night I was with my friend after shaving my face for the first time in a while, before I was even 100% sure of anything he literally said something along the lines of "You know, you could really pass as a girl right now if you wanted." Like, I hadn't done anything special... I just no longer had a beard and had brushed my hair that I had gotten cut to dude length a few months before, and just Jesus Christ... then, his girlfriend said she didn't see it, and I internally mostly agreed with her that I didn't look remotely feminine, but still internally freaking out that he even said that... but then he had to clarify "You know, like one of those ugly short haired girls", and just fucking Christ...

I still just feel the same mixture of giddy and dead inside thinking of it. He's my best friend, but I wanted to both hug him and kill him. I honestly think it's about 25% of the reason I'm still not out irl...

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago

Always go for the thanks

[–] Sanyanov@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

"Thanks, I guess? Women are beautiful, so that's a high standard"