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Agree though, everywhere you go people are being triggered by the slightest thing - it's like the start of some sci-fi novel.
You're welcome here though, a small refreshing corner of the net ;-)
I believe a lot of the posts and replies that rile an individual up, on social media, are put there by bots. Intentionally to rile people up.
I think social unrest is desired by certain groups and factions.
Why are we so shitty to each other?
Pretty sure it's a result of over a decade of algorithmically incentivized cultural shift. Fights drive clicks and they clued into that pretty early on.
Why are we so shitty to each other? I’m so tired.
That's our nature. We always have been and always will be. The only difference is that now it's way more convenient.
With that said, I deleted my twitter a year ago. I deleted facebook three months ago, and left reddit for lemmy two months ago. It's actually been really great for my mental health to not know what everyone I know is thinking all of the time, and I still have messenger if they need to to get in touch with me. Do I miss an event here and there? Yes, but it's worth it for the amount of stuff I don't have to see anymore.
Part of the reason is that people don't know how to provide feedback in a nice way. I'm guilty of that sometimes, when I use software and make a bug report or write feedback, I realize after the fact I sound passive agressive.
It takes conscious effort to provide feedback in a nice way before it becomes a habit. I'm told a compliment sandwich is a good way to provide critical feedback without sounding like an asshole.
Or as that article mentions, it is also known as a Shit Sandwich. Mostly because we don't refer to sandwiches by the bread.
One thing you really have to learn in this world is how to disregard the feelings of other people. Other people's feelings are only rooted in their own self-interest and they will take advantage of your feelings and manipulate you to get what they want. They're not even aware they're even doing it half the time. It is the perennial human condition.
Most people are ugly-spirited, mean, cruel assholes.
You're better off either just insulating yourself from them or hardening your spirit to better tolerate their presence.
I'm still not shitty to people so I don't know. Maybe younger generation just thinks it's fine to trash people online.
I and three others had a pvp Minecraft server and we had to shut it down because people were getting into stupid toxic arguments to the point we had two sides, one wanted the other banned on threat of them leaving because one of their members had an argument several months ago with them and brought it up again. I spent all nighters on the Minecraft server and the owner spent €50 every month. To be treated like this was heartbreaking. So the four of us agreed to shut it down. It hurt and I feel bad and the underlying concept was enjoyable to many people, but we couldn't have it because people were just trying to figure out ways to break it and weren't actually playing the game we tirelessly were maintaining for them. Shutting it down was heartbreaking but I feel so much better for it.