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I'm kind of in the closet because of a lot of this, but it's weird saying I'm in the closet when I'm ace. Like, on the one hand, what am I gonna do, go around telling everyone I don't have sex? That's weird. But at the same time, it's incredible how much normal small talk interactions with friends and even just-slightly-more-than-strangers revolves around sex and having sex.
"Sorry about that, I was up late last night and I'm still kinda worn out" "Oh, I'll bet you were, YOU DOG wink nudge"
or
"Yeah, my girlfriend and I are going camping this weekend" "Sounds like FUN, amirite? [insert multiple innuendos]"
or
"I'm going to be a little late to the get-together; I really need to clean the kitchen before I leave" "Going for that [HOT SEX ACT REWARD] huh? I get it! Go get [THE SEX POINTS]!"
Like, it's all over the place. It's every day. I just kind of nod along agreeably, but I feel like I'm a big dirty liar.
Sorry for your experience. I can sort of relate. Too many conversations about relationship became conversation about sex for no good reasons. As if people have relationships only to have sex.....