Pointing out what sucks in a language isn't tribalism, calling people "bad developers" when they don't like your tool on the other hand, ...

Hard sell. Calling people you know nothing about “bad developers” because they don’t like your tool on the other hand, that was cringe as hell and just made you look like you somehow tied your self-worth to php. "If my tool gets criticized; that means I'm being criticized!"

If you don't give in to that, you start to see "Oh, that bug wouldn't have happened if I'd been using [x]" and you become a better developer

When a woodworker cuts iself with a bandsaw, people who do what you do scream "He's a bad woodworker!"

And while they're screaming, we invented guardrails