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Help me grow my perspective on openness and sexuality please (beehaw.org)
submitted 1 year ago by TheOtherJake@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
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I encountered someone saying, "I have no problems with a person's sexual orientation and choice, I have a problem with anyone being openly sexual or flaunting their sexuality in front of me regardless of their choice of orientation."

I am a card carrying atheist. I was raised in one of the worst fundamental christian extremist groups and now live in near isolation from abandoning it nearly 10 years ago. All sexuality was bottled in my life and surroundings. This is still my comfort zone. A part of me wants to hold on to a similar ethos as the person I mentioned above, but I feel like I'm not very confident it is the right inner philosophical balance either.

I'm partially disabled now, so this is almost completely hypothetical. I am honestly looking to grow in my understanding of personal space and inner morality as it relates to others. Someone enlighten me please. Where does this go, what does it mean to you?

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[โ€“] sludge@beehaw.org 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

so like, i also had a very christian upbringing, tho i moved past a lot (not all! it took work to shed all that garbage) of those teachings on gender and sexuality thru coming to terms with being trans. like, living without the burden of christian morality and guilt is incredibly freeing.

bringing this around to pda. i also used to find it off-putting, but it really isn't about you, its ok for human beings to be affectionate with each other, and this is usually only applied to gay people anyway, are you uncomfortable when you see someone hug their grandparents at the airport?

also, a lot of humans are sexual beings, like there really is no reason to object to people being open about their orientation that isn't based in religious bullshit.

[โ€“] TheOtherJake@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

I have trouble getting past some of it too. I don't get out much. Sometimes it feels like being uncomfortable is also not knowing what happens if I was not hiding behind the no PDA wall. Coming to terms with this is kinda what I hope to accomplish here, I just don't know how to say it in a very good way. Honestly, this community is probably the only place I would dare try. Thanks for that.