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The thing with the combative comments/rudeness, in my experience, mostly looks like someone being direct and then a bunch of readers being offended by the bluntness. Whether it was on Reddit, here, or forums and Usenet back in the day. So many problems with "tone" in text is caused simply by the reader reading it in a combative tone that the writer never intended.
Add to that a large part of the Internet (Americans I can only presume) are the biggest moral prudes around.
Like they’ll see someone say fuck in a conversation and be like “guys that’s totally uncalled for, let’s be civil here” when really it’s just a bit of fucking emphasis behind a word and causal as fuck.
Rather than labeling an entire nation as "moral prudes", it's important to recognize that different cultures have different standards of civility. I know many Commonwealth nations consider words like "fuck" and "cunt" to be simply everyday ordinary language, but in the United States, one is considered very low-brow and crude, while the other is very nearly the most offensive word in our vocabulary.
Different cultures, different standards.
I would almost ignore the profanity aspect, because that's one of the easiest to learn about and laugh at together, and lean into the fact that some cultures don't engage with sarcasm the same way as others. Or that some cultures (and sub-cultures) make heavy use of mockery and teasing in ways that are confusing to others.
There are many circumstances where it can be difficult to tell the difference between a joke and a jab in a cross-culture conversation. And that's not even getting into language and slang barriers.