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You're doing the same thing they did. You skipped the OTHER criteria I listed for being “manly” besides just “goodness”, that being: for a person that identifies with the biological reproductive role of a male.
Agreed it isn't, but for a person that identifies with the biological reproductive role of a male, there is a specific term for it: "manly". Where did that come from? History.
With my explanation to that other poster, I'm more confused by your doubling down on it.
Here's what I'm saying "With X,Y, and Z it equals 'manly'"
You seem to be saying "Yes but if you remove X and Y, then why does the term 'manly' apply?". I agree with you, it no longer does. You're talking about something else at that point because you've removed characteristics that apply to the word "manly" so it no longer is that word.
No argument from me there. However it will be up to the very young generations growing up right now to change this. All the rest of us have grown up in a world of old definitions of masculinity. We can reject those and adopt the words, but we can't erase our knowledge of them. Most of the adult generations alive today will have to eventually die off for these ideas to disappear from our society.
I disagree. One of those specific traits is a person that identifies with the biological reproductive role of a male. If that trait remains, it cannot be ungendered. If you remove that trait, you're not talking about the word 'manly' anymore.
I ignored it because I feel it's not germane to the topic at hand; and I have no argument with your assertion either as it pertains to what the biological role of a "man" is in reproduction. But biological functions are not part of the discussion of traits of, or imposed expectations of, feeling like a man.
I disagree that being someone who fills the "biological reproductive male role" has anything to do with being or needing to feel "manly". Since "manly" in my opinion is purely a cultural imposition. More so, any traits generally being mentioned in this whole thread are not exclusive to being a man, but of a good person.
From the rest of your reply though we'll just have to agree to disagree that the "biological reproductive male role" has any influence on the discussion of what it means when a man says "sometimes a man wants to feel like a man" or similar discussions about what it means to be a man, or to use your word "manly", because we'll probably disagree about what it means to BE manly. But I also don't concern myself with being manly so that might be the disconnect.
If you're removing the actual male portion of the word as irrelevant, is your assertion that a woman or enby would use the word "manly" to describe and identity of being a responsible adult?
We're dealing with loose societal definitions, so I'll agree there isn't a single authoritative source. I've shared my definition of what it feels like to be a man, and it largely translates into "handling yourself like an adult, and I happen to be male". The other extreme definition that others may use is likely the most toxic masculinity items you can imagine.
If you're looking for a single authoritative definition of what "feeling like a man" means, you're not going to find it.
I'm not removing it as irrelevant from all things. I'm saying its irrelevant as part of a discussion for what other traits define many and/or are exclusively manly.
I'm not really sure what you're asking with ,"is your assertion that a woman or enby would use the word “manly” to describe and identity of being a responsible adult?"
For sure I'm not looking for a single authoritative definition. I am, in fact rejecting just about any definition or even the need for one. I am, at the end of my logic train, begging the question, "why does it even matter?" I certainly don't care if society deems me "a man" or "manly". I don't judge other people by such a rubric. I think society would be better off if we work to actively reject such notions since they lead to gatekeeping which is rarely helpful. All that matters is that I'm happy with who I am, within the bounds of whatever it means to also being good to other people.
Obviously that opinion means it will be very hard for someone to come up with examples of traits* that are actually really honestly unique to man/male-ness which a woman can't/won't/shouldn't also possess as part of being a good responsible person? I have yet to hear any. They ALL a equally true for a good person regardless of gender / gender identity.
*In this context I will concede the obvious biological function you've pointed out, while at the same time ignoring it as irrelevant because it can stand on it's own AND have no impact on the other traits being discussed. Just because someone "handles themselves like an adult and happens to be male" doesn't in mean it logically follows that handling oneself as an adult = male. Just like the equally valid sentence, "handles themselves like an adult and happens to be female" doesn't make handling oneself as an adult = female. They just mean you're a responsible adult and not an irresponsible child.
As I stated in my second post, I don't believe there are any traits which are exclusively "to feel like a man". I didn't know you were still searching for those. I can't help you there as I don't think they exist (unless we're importing the worst parts of toxic masculinity, which I reject that).
Ah well then perhaps we agree more than we thought :) Cheers Mate!