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After dealing with "anger issues" for most of my life and then the "anger" transforming into crying fits after starting my transition, I have concluded that it was never anger.
It's panic.
In people socialized as men it is unacceptable to panic, so we get angry instead to displace the panic into a more socially acceptable masculine expression.
But instead of treating the panic attacks, men are just expected to control their anger. Even though the anger is, itself, a way to cope with panic and so it can't be controlled without addressing the underlying cause.
Anger management, therefore, is treating symptoms and not the cause. Instead he probably needs anxiety meds.
But I am not a psychologist/psychiatrist.
This is a broad, over-general statement. Not everyone experiencing anger control issues is suffering from the same experiences that you did. I'm happy that you were able to come to terms with your own problems, but dismissing anger management classes as "treating symptoms and not the cause" is not fair. Some people do benefit from them even if you didn't.
I just strongly suspect that anger management issues are a common misdiagnosis of anxiety and panic, not just based on experience, but based on the way gender norms obscure and distort men's feelings. It doesn't help that men also tend to avoid getting help, due to those same gender norms.
I don’t disagree and I’ve seen it many times, but I also wouldn’t be surprised if it’s something else. He seems indignant at people challenging him
I am extremely anxious by default unless I am able to fully control my environment (remove stressors) and converting anxiety to anger is the only way to turn that energy into action, unless an intermediary is present that understands my context. Anger isn't a pure negative, and it can be useful at times.
On the other hand, it's hard to steer it and let go of it once you get locked in. Additionally, many stressors can't be fixed by direct action and that will just stress out everyone else who has to be around you without reducing the original problems.