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To be honest I feel like just being simply honest should work. "Hello, I think I like you. Would you like to get tea together or go for a walk in the park and get to know each other?" But then again I'm a shut in with anxiety and little to no understanding of humans so I don't know.
Agreed!! Tho it’s not quite my speed. I once slipped someone a note with my number on the train because saying that out loud in a crowded public space makes me want to turn inside out. It was cute, they reached out and we went on a sort of date, and settled at friends. I’ve done similar a couple times since and it’s always been positive.
I feel like getting handed a ripped off piece of someone’s bookmark or something with their name and number is very disarming. It gives agency to the person being approached, which I think makes the whole interaction much less weird than you’d think. For a hot sec I thought about making a business card style thing, but I think that makes it weird again. Takes the “meet cute” vibe out of it when you seem over prepared for the occasion.
Worth noting I like to include my age if I do this, as I look quite young for almost 30 (I blame the HRT lol) and I just want people to have that detail before they choose to reach out or not.
Oh also the original post would 1000% work on me.
May not be your speed, but something I've thought about re: the business card thing: Keep an eye out for interesting or odd business cards, and keep a couple with you to write your info on the back for this kind of situation. Depending on what they're for, it's a conversation starter when you meet again, and it doesn't feel as contrived as making your own cards.
Small independent businesses are a good source for these, particularly if it's a decent place for a date/friend outing. Or just something odd you like or find funny.
Wait I love this!! I’ve got lots of local businesses and artists I keep cards for so I can digitize the info later. I try to keep track of who made all the prints on my art wall, which means I have a decent collection of both visually interesting and local cards. Thanks for the suggestion!