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I used to be exactly like you. My social battery died way too quick and I hated going anywhere. No interest in alcohol or getting drunk at all. But the thing is, if you don't go anywhere or talk to anyone, you end up missing out on so many cool things. That unfortunately took me way too long to realize.
You kinda just gotta force yourself to go out and get used to it via exposure therapy. It absolutely sucks at first, but keep at it. It gets better. Having friends to go out with helps a ton, but I'm also at the point where I'm starting to get comfortable doing things by myself too. Doing that helps a ton with meeting new people.
I still don't like alcohol, but it also helps me to be more social too. That in turn helps me get more comfortable with socializing in general. You don't have to overdo it and get drunk, just enough to take the edge off and relax more. It's a genuinely really helpful crutch at times.
I know it's easy to disregard advice like this. I've done it plenty of times. But trust me, it's worth it. Don't rush, take your time, and you'll get there eventually. I believe in you
And that's the problem for many, we just don't have friends, we don't connect with anyone, social activities just ruin my day, I don't have a job and forcing myself at being more "normal" feels like a job. Is not natural. I wish people would understand me and some girl would just synch with me under those conditions, because I can be cuddly and likeable enough with one person. But I know that is not going to happen.
It's definitely not a natural feeling, and I totally get what you mean about it feeling like a job. I still struggle with it sometimes myself. I literally have to play mind games with myself to force myself to go out at times.
The unfortunate thing is, if you don't try at all, you're not going to get better. Like I said, it'll be rough at first. You'll feel super uncomfortable and want to run back to the safety of your solitude. But you have to push through it, or you'll end up stuck where you are.
Mental health access is not great, but if you have an option to speak with a therapist, that may be a good first step if you need a helpful push
Yeah I'm not going to get better. Like you said, it is unfortunate.
Whenever you write something like that, you are training it to be true
But it is true. I'm not writing a prophecy. I've been like this for decades now