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Anyone else struggle with (other people's) birthdays? (feddit.uk)
submitted 2 months ago by Flax_vert@feddit.uk to c/autism@lemmy.world
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Like - what do I write in the card? What the hell do I get them? They come up so quickly as well.

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[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

Cards:

  • write what you like about them
  • add a relevant story you guys share within the last year that reflects that quality of theirs

Gifts:

  • if they tell you they like something throughout the year, add it to a private note to look at during their bday
  • something they would love to have or use but wouldn't spend their own money
  • bonus: relevant to their quality story

Example

Card: Happy birthday! I love how you're always happy, like when we went to the beach and it started raining. Even though we were bummed out, you found a way to make it fun and we had a great time. I hope you receive the same happiness on your birthday that you gave me at the beach.

Gift: The shirt they said they liked at the beach store but didn't buy it for themselves.

Follow me for more autism survival guides ๐Ÿ‘Œ

edit: Warning, some people will become upset if they recognize that you follow this/a formula. I haven't figured out a solution to this.

[โ€“] haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

But of course its you! :)) thanks for sharing this. I struggle with this as well. Great advice.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Thanks! Imagine the possibilities if we could decode the patterns of NT social interaction. Formulas, flowcharts, and nodes everywhere ๐Ÿ™†. Birthday coming up? "Activate Birthday Gifts and Card Protocol, go!" ๐Ÿ˜„

[โ€“] haui_lemmy@lemmy.giftedmc.com 2 points 2 months ago

Now you know why I am so obsessed with linux and scripting. ;)

[โ€“] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Genuinely helpful.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You're welcome! I'd be happy to help you out with your particular situation. Hit me up on matrix if you'd like ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ‘

Also,

edit: Warning, some people will become upset if they recognize that you follow this/a formula. I haven't figured out a solution to this.

[โ€“] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

To be fair I use the same card design every year, so it probably wouldn't be much worse

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 1 points 2 months ago

I'd be your friend ๐Ÿ™‚

[โ€“] groucho@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 months ago

Better than my method:

  • buy birthday card
  • attempt to write "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!" in it and realize it already says that inside
  • underline "HAPPY BIRTHDAY" and add two more exclamation points
  • "love / sincerely / yours truly /

groucho"