Technology

58164 readers

4165 users here now

This is a most excellent place for technology news and articles.

Our Rules

Follow the lemmy.world rules.
Only tech related content.
Be excellent to each another!
Mod approved content bots can post up to 10 articles per day.
Threads asking for personal tech support may be deleted.
Politics threads may be removed.
No memes allowed as posts, OK to post as comments.
Only approved bots from the list below, to ask if your bot can be added please contact us.
Check for duplicates before posting, duplicates may be removed

Approved Bots

founded 1 year ago

MODERATORS

Dating app Bumble will no longer require women to make the first move | CNN Business (edition.cnn.com)

submitted 4 months ago by Dragxito@lemmy.world to c/technology@lemmy.world

11 comments fedilink hide all child comments

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] Hootz@lemmy.ca 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Why can't we go back to meeting people on BBS and forums. Shit I met my partner in 2009 on a forum. It was organic and real, no apps, no algorithms just good ol' fashion php with a dash of flame war.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Or just... talk to people IRL? I met my wife at my apartment complex, and plenty more meet their SOs at a local social event or whatever. Go to meetups for stuff you're interested in and talk to people. I trust that way more than dating apps that pair you with strangers given a short bio...

Yeah, talking to people sucks, I get it. I'm quite introverted and need to relax after putting myself out there. When I met my wife, we texted for 2-3 days before I had enough social energy to ask her out on a date, even though I was quite interested in her. She's a little introverted as well, so we're a good match.

Text is way easier for me, but in-person is way more effective. Most of my friends met their SOs in person at some kind of meetup, whether a DND night, tech meetup, or a dance (not a club, that's way too loud). Online worked for my brother, but I just don't see nearly as much success as with in-person meetups, at least among my friends.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

People especially women hate meeting people in public. It's either "inappropriate," or there's music louder than a war playing. There is no in between.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 months ago

I'm talking about pretty "safe" settings, like:

game night with mutual friends - your and their friends will help keep things on the level
co-ed sports (again, with mutual friends)
community events, such as at a local library or whatever
meetups for interests - often hosted at some local business that does something related to the thing (I'm a dev, so I go to local Rust, Go, Python, and JS meetups on occasion)

In other words, places where people are "forced" to interact doing something that interests them, while around other people that could come to your aid if someone is being creepy. The goal shouldn't be to find a SO (that attracts the wrong type), but to interact with people that share an interest. You should be looking to make friends, and if that blossoms into something more, I guess that's cool too. Don't go into it looking for an SO, go into it looking to engage about something you enjoy.