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Not 100% sure what you're asking, but I think it's about the flowery language and "code"?
I'm just really direct, and get told I need to consider how I say things... The only example coming to mind is something I don't really want to talk about openly on Lemmy. I'll give a vague represantation though
(My statements are verbatim, the replies are paraphrased)
I'll say "You didn't do XYZ." - They say "But I have done X"
Next time I try "Have you done XYor Z?" - Then I hear "Why are you interrogating me?"
"What have you done?" - "Why are you being accusatory?"
Those are all plain and simple black and white questions. I have yet to figure out the code I was supposed to speak.
Those examples are from the same person, but I get this reaction from most people when I ask simple questions
Thanks for the insight. It'll be something to keep in mind going forward.
The place I experienced this the worst was a job where I was in a leadership position, lol. (I have since come to the conclusion that I'm not the leader type)