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Please help: What's your take on woman drinking guy's beer without asking after he starts dancing with her? (beehaw.org)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

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Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don't know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I've been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.

What is your opinion on a woman taking a man's beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.

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[–] Devi@beehaw.org 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

To clarify, yet again, the girls who would pull this trick would act as if they were interested in the guy that they chose, and were interested in sleeping with them. They were not interested in sleeping with them, they just wanted free drinks. The guys would find out at the end of the night that these girls were pretending to be interested just to get drinks, and would be annoyed that they had been tricked. At no point did anyone owe anything to anyone else.

A guy who had been tricked like this in the past might avoid anyone that he thinks might be trying it in the future.

Read this through again. Think about what you're saying. To suggest it's a 'trick' to accept a gift that's offered without offering your own self as a reward. If you truly believe that women don't owe men sex if they buy them a drink then why are you talking about it as if they're not holding up their end of the bargain?

[–] Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

If someone lies to you, especially if it's to trick you into giving them something, it's ok to feel upset.

The only person who is constantly saying anything about people being owed sex is you. Seek help.

[–] remington@beehaw.org 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Seek help.

This isn't nice to say to someone. Please, remember to be(e) nice when using Beehaw. Also, consider this a warning.

[–] Tippon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 7 months ago

Fair enough.